Understanding Yourself & Understanding Others   

Create Thriving Relationships and Personal Success
 with a Powerful New Way to Understand People 

A new, 7-week online Course beginning on Feb. 13 
taught by Steven Kessler, MFT
Therapist, Teacher, and Author of The 5 Personality Patterns

Understanding Yourself & Understanding Others   

Create Thriving Relationships and Personal Success with a Powerful New Way to Understand People

A new, live 7-week online Course beginning on Feb. 13 and taught by Steven KesslerMFT, 

Therapist, Teacher, and Author of   The 5 Personality Patterns

Your past is still stuck in your body.  It still controls your life.

It's time to Free Yourself.

Of course, you want your work and your personal relationships to bloom into joy and ease.  And you want to make a big contribution to Life.


But things don't always go that way. Sometimes what other people do and say is hard to understand. Sometimes it even seems like they're living in a different world. And just understanding your own feelings and needs can be confusing.


The problem is that you're caught in patterns of automatic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They started out as ways to feel safer when you were young, but then got so conditioned into your body that now they control everything, from how you perceive to how you feel to how you behave. In fact, they control your life.


And you're not alone. Everyone's personality has been shaped by a few childhood safety strategies that gradually became so automatic that now they control their whole life. As we grow up, the strategies that we adopted to keep us safe gradually begin to confine and limit us. What once kept us safe becomes our prison cell.


So we live our lives caught in a prison that we don't even know is there.  We feel caught somehow, but we can't see what limits us, so we just think “That's how I am.” 


But you don't have to stay caught in your prison cell. You don't have to let those unconscious patterns control you for the rest of your life. You can learn about the 5 personality patterns and see which ones are running your life. And you can discover how to get out of your patterns and open up once again to the freedom of being present in the moment.


You will step onto that path when you decide to attend the Understanding Yourself & Understanding Others course. Each module will deepen your understanding of the 5 safety strategies and the personality patterns that grow out of them. You'll discover which patterns you get caught in and how to know when you've gone into pattern. You'll begin learning the skills you need to get out out of pattern and come back to being present.


And you can immediately apply your new knowledge everywhere in your life. Suddenly, it will seem like you have x-ray vision. You'll be able to see what's going on inside those around you -- how they change as they become distressed, what safety strategies they employ, and what they need to feel safer. You'll find yourself able to deal with them more effectively and communicate with them more successfully. Instead of feeling scared or angry or judgmental, you may even find yourself feeling compassion for them.


Others who took this course have reported that it shifted them from self-judgment to self-love.  Or saved their marriage. Or led to success in their business or profession.


You can have those benefits, too. You can learn what's really happening inside yourself and others. You can learn the skills you need to cultivate a stable, grounded presence and develop emotional maturity.


It's not rocket science. It's just knowledge and practice. But you need a map that shows you where you are now and how to get to where you want to be. Understanding Yourself & Understanding Others gives you that map and that knowledge.

What people are saying about Steven's work . . .

"This Course will change your life."

Danielle Eisenberg

 Relationship Coach

“Steven was an excellent instructor with tremendous insight and willingness to help.  Bravo!"

Fran Friel

 Barbara Brennan Practitioner

"This ... is a must for Leaders in gaining self mastery and the ability to understand and relate to others in a powerful, effective way."

J Kellert, Ph.D 

The Conscious Leadership Center

What people are saying about Steven's work . . .

"This course will change your life."

Danielle Eisenberg

​Relationship Coach

"This ... is a must for Leaders in gaining self mastery and the ability to understand and relate to others in a powerful, effective way."

J Kellert, Ph.D

The Conscious Leadership Center

"A great life tool.  Everyone could benefit from this knowledge."

Ona Cocozza

EFT Practitioner, Esthetician, CMT 

“Steven was an excellent instructor with tremendous insight and willingness to help.  Bravo!  

Fran Friel

Barbara Brennan Practitioner

Greater Connection Through Streaming Video

Steven will be teaching the sessions via streaming video so you can enjoy an even more powerful connection and transmission. This video connection is easy to use and will greatly increase your learning and transformation.  And all sessions are recorded so you can watch or re-watch them anytime.

Here's What You'll Learn


During this fun, exciting course, you'll discover:

  • the 5 ways people try to stay safe
  • how each of the 5 patterns develops
  • which patterns you go into when distressed
  • how to recognize the patterns in others
  • what different people need and how to help them get it
  • how to communicate and work with them successfully
  • practices to keep you centered, stable, and strong


"It's like having x-ray vision!"



During the 7 weeks, you'll explore 7 modules.


Module 1:  How Personality Forms 

How the 5 Safety Strategies become the 5 Personality Patterns

We will begin by exploring what happens inside people when they get distressed, how they habitually respond to try to feel safer, and how those habits shape their entire experience of life. 


In module 1 you'll discover:

  • the 5 main safety strategies people use
  • how the safety strategies develop into personality patterns
  • how each pattern becomes self-reinforcing
  • 2 practices to keep you centered

Module 2:  Flee   The Leaving Pattern

This place scares me. I want to go home.”

The incoming spirit's first task is to settle into the body and attach to it, a process known as Embodiment. If the spirit doesn't feel safe here, it keeps bouncing out of the body. This derails the process of Embodiment, which makes it hard to be here in a human body, but easy to leave.


In module 2 you'll discover:

  • the Gifts of this pattern
  • the real reason some people are 'highly sensitive'
  • what makes the physical world seem so scary to them
  • how they use leaving to protect themselves
  • how embodiment is their key to finally feel safe here
  • practices to help you ground and embody

Module 3:  Connect & Please → The Merging Pattern

I can never get full. I’m not enough. Love will solve everything.”

After coming into the body, the next task is Taking In food and love from others.  If, in childhood, there wasn’t enough, a person can get stuck in this stage, still trying to get everything they need from others.


In module 3 you'll discover:

  • the Gifts of this pattern
  • why people who do this pattern are so focused on talking and being close
  • how they got to be so good at connecting with people
  • why they get stuck in "I can't! You do it for me."
  • when they shift into "I can" and overdo it
  • how core and self-care are their keys to safety and success
  • practices to help you develop core, self-care, and healthy boundaries

Module 4:  Hunker Down & Hide → the Enduring Pattern

You can't make me. Leave me alone.”

After Taking In, our next developmental task is Putting Out, in the form of self-expression and self-action. If we weren't allowed to say 'No' or be different from our parents, we can get stuck here, hunkered down, but unable to express ourselves, take action, or succeed at anything.


In module 4 you'll discover:

  • the Gifts of this pattern
  • why they are so deeply grounded and strong
  • why people who do this pattern want so much space around them
  • how they get stuck in resisting, and then feel heavy and resentful
  • how claiming and filling their space is their key to safety and success
  • practices to help you claim and fill your space

Module 5:  Inflate & Fight → The Aggressive Pattern

"There’s no safety anywhere. It’s a jungle out there.”

Our next developmental task is Trusting Others. If our parents cannot hold us with both love and strength, or if our trust is betrayed and our love is used against us, we may swear off trust and love and turn to power for a sense of safety. If we get stuck there, we lose our sense of connection and belonging, and the world becomes a lonely battlefield.


In module 5 you'll discover:

  • the Gifts of this pattern
  • why people who do this pattern are so focused on power and dominance
  • how they got to be so good at leading, fighting, and getting their own way
  • why they get stuck in "I'm alone here" and "I have to do it all"
  • the benefits and cost of being highly charged
  • how feeling held and contained by something big, strong and good is their path back
  • practices to help you reconnect with real support and belonging

Module 6:  Tighten & Perform → The Rigid Pattern

"I am my Performance. So are You.”

If we are loved only for our performance and correctness, and not for our hearts and our selves, we tend to lose touch with our inner life and focus only on our performance. Outwardly, we become attractive and successful, but we do not develop our inner guidance, our capacity for Trusting Self. Our thinking, feelings, and actions become stiff and rule-bound. 


In module 6 you'll discover:

  • the Gifts of this pattern
  • why people who do this pattern are so focused on being right, and correct
  • how they got to be so good at details, organizing, and performing
  • why they get stuck in black and white, right-wrong, and good-bad thinking
  • why feelings and spontaneity can scare them
  • how learning to feel their way through life is their path back to authenticity
  • practices to help you develop your feeling life and inner guidance

Module 7:  Putting it All Together

Primary and Secondary Patterns

Getting Out of Pattern & Shifting into Presence


In module 7 you'll discover:

  • that people have both primary and secondary patterns
  • how to discern which patterns you do
  • practices to keep you centered, stable, and strong
  • a 5 second re-centering practice
  • the Basic Energy Skills everyone needs to be a healthy adult
  • 6 different ways to get yourself out of a pattern and back to presence

It’s more than a Course, 

It’s a Community!


You'll be invited to join a private facebook community that's just for students of the personality patterns.  There you can ask questions, discuss what you're learning, and share your discoveries.

Free Bonuses You'll Receive

In addition to Steven’s transformative 7-week course, you’ll also receive these powerful bonus materials. These bonus selections complement the course — and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.

From Pattern to Presence

an audio discussion of the 5 personality patterns
featuring Steven Kessler and Anodea Judith

Interview with Kelly Blaser

an interview for her DharmaBridge Trainingon using the 5 Personality Patterns in coaching

Understanding Yourself & Others

an Interview with Tanya Lynn for her Sistership Circles podcast

Using EFT with the 5 Patterns

a short interview on Empire Radio on how to integrate this map of personality with Emotional Freedom Technique

Free Bonuses You'll Receive

In addition to Steven’s transformative 7-week course, you’ll also receive these powerful bonus materials. These bonus selections complement the course — and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.

From Pattern to Presence

an audio discussion of the 5 personality patterns
featuring Steven Kessler and Anodea Judith

Interview with Kelly Blaser

an interview for her DharmaBridge Training on using the 5 Personality Patterns in coaching

Understanding Yourself & Others

an Interview with Tanya Lynn for her Sistership Circles podcast

Using EFT with the 5 Patterns

a short interview on Empire Radio on how to integrate this map of personality with Emotional Freedom Technique

How You Will Benefit


You'll discover:

  • which patterns you get caught in
  • practices to shift yourself back to being present
  • how to recognize which patterns others are caught in
  • how to communicate with them successfully
  • how to work with them more efficiently

Previous attendees report that this work has changed their lives.  Their personal and professional lives bloom, their clients love it, and everything in life becomes easier.


"It's like having x-ray vision!"

Embark on a Life-changing Journey with a Master Guide

     Steven Kessler, MFT has been studying people his whole life. For over 30 years, he's been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), as well as spending 16 years in the Diamond Heart meditation school.


     Since 1984, Steven has taught hundreds of groups and workshops in the U.S. and internationally, helping men and women heal their wounds and grow into their full adult selves.  For over 15 years, he has been a student of Lynda Caesara, studying Character Structure, the direct perception of energy, and shamanism in the lineage of Grandfather Two Bears and the Southern Seers tradition. 


     His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, lays out a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and relating to them effectively. Readers email him frequently with stories of how reading it has been a life-changing experience and has enabled them to finally understand both themselves and others. 

When you say “YES” to this healing journey, you’ll:

  • Gain deep insights into who you are  —  and how to express yourself more authentically
  • Start to relax the conditioning that has kept you stuck
  • Become more comfortable with yourself
  • Begin to dismantle the automatic patterns that have been running your life
  • Learn how to develop true self-confidence
  • Bring more intimacy and depth into your relationships
  • Expand your capacity to communicate in a clear and compelling way
  • Become more effective in your actions and interactions
  • Expand your ability to attract and serve people through your work
  • Gain increased clarity about your power and your gifts
  • See a clear path toward a more grounded, successful and fulfilling life

What People are Saying About Steven and

Understanding Yourself & Understanding Others

"I have been doing deep healing work with clients for the last 9 years and I integrate the Enneagram, energy work and other somatic practices. Steven has done brilliant and deep work developing and compiling this information in a way that is approachable and also vast. He has obviously put in his time sitting and supporting and studying real humans. This work is a game changer."

MICAH McLAUGHLIN, Naturopathic Practitioner

"Over the years, I have attempted to learn about myself and heal frustrating patterns within myself through studying things like astrology, the Enneagram, Myers Briggs, etc. While I gained bits and pieces from each of those systems, nothing changed my life like learning about the character patterns . . . .  As a healthcare provider and a parent, I look forward to a world where this information is more widely accessible to and understood by the general public." 

Dr. JEANNIE ACHUFF, ND 

"Imagine understanding five clear survival patterns that run through everyone you know and love, everyone you work with and play with, and of course, yourself. Unlike more complicated systems (like the Enneagram with its 9 points), there are only five patterns to understand here, and when you do understand them, you will find that they do a remarkable job of shedding light on your day-to-day experience of yourself and others. Steven Kessler has done a remarkable job of reframing the insights of geniuses like Wilhelm Reich and Alexander Lowen so they can be understood and applied by everyone."

JORDAN GRUBER, Writer

Here's What You'll Receive . . .

7  90" Sessions of Teaching, Guided Practices, and Q & A with Steven Kessler

Experience a rare opportunity to learn from the internationally known expert and author of the bestselling book The 5 Personality Patterns.  


Each class session will include teaching on the subject of the week, an experiential practice to help you shift out of pattern and become more present, and Q & A on the teaching and the practice.


Each of the sessions are RECORDED so you can listen or re-listen any time and know that you'll never miss a thing.

Exercises and Practices for Each Lesson

Each session will introduce you to a new energetic skill.  Practicing them will accelerate your learning and help you integrate each week’s lesson.

7 Video Recordings of Class Sessions

The videos will be available for you to stream in high-quality format anytime. This way, you’ll never have to worry about missing a session, and you can watch or review a session anytime you desire — on your phone or on your computer.

8 Recordings to Guide You Through the Practices

Each week you will also get an audio or video recording guiding you through the new energetic skill that was introduced in that session.  You can use the guided practices for as long as you need to get that skill established in your body.

8 PDFs: Including One Summarizing Each of the Patterns

PDFs include:  The Principles Behind the Patterns, Developmental Stages and the Patterns, Getting Out of Pattern, and 5 PDFs on a pattern.  Each 2-page PDF on a pattern includes sections on the Energy Flow, Origin, Gifts, Body Signs, Beliefs, Fears, Self-image, Thoughts, Behaviors, Emotions, Interactions with Others, Romance, Communication Style, Difficulties, Task, Signs You're in the Pattern, and Ways to Get Out of Pattern.

A Custom Course Website

You’ll have access to all the course materials and resources via our private, customized Course Website.

A Private Facebook Group

You'll be invited to join a private facebook community that's just for students of the personality patterns.  There you can ask questions, discuss what you're learning, and share your discoveries.

4 Bonus Audio Recordings

These bonus selections complement the course — and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.

ENROLL NOW FOR

Understanding Yourself & Understanding Others


a 7-week online Course

Wednesdays, Feb. 13 - March 27

11 am pacific time in the US

ALL sessions will be recorded so you can watch them anytime.


Choose from one of two enrollment options below . . .

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$295 


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$105


NO RISK GUARANTEE

Absolutely NO RISK Guarantee:  This way of seeing people has proven so useful to so many others that I guarantee you'll find it useful, too!  Anytime during the first month of the course, if you find that this material is not useful to you, we'll refund 100% of your tuition.

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