How to Create a Self

The Key to Self-Confidence and Success 

A new, live online course taught

by Steven Kessler, MFT

Therapist, Teacher, and Author

How to Create a Self

The Key to 

Self-Confidence

and Success 

A live online course taught by Steven Kessler , MFT

Therapist, Teacher, and Author

Your lack of self-confidence is not your fault.

You just haven't learned the energetic skills you need.

It's time to learn those skills.

Of course, you want a stable, solid, felt sense of Self.

     You want to know who you are.

     You want to know what you want.

And you want to feel confident and able to get what you want.


But no one develops that self-confidence automatically. It is the result of learning and practicing a particular set of energetic skills --

  • skills that most people are not aware of
  • skills that most parents can't teach you
  • skills that you didn't learn in school
  • skills that you don't learn in psychotherapy

Without these skills, you're left wondering, "What's wrong with me?  Why are some things so hard for me?  Why do I feel so weak inside?  Why can't I just pull it together and do what's needed?"


You can learn these skills. They're not difficult.  They're not complicated.  All it takes is practice -- if you have a guide who can show you the way.


Once you develop these skills, you will have a stable, felt sense of Self anchored in your body. This will give you:

  • the actual sensation of your Self – the feel, the flavor, the note …
  • clarity about what you feel, what you like, what you want
  • a center, a place to operate from
  • a place to come back to if you get lost or dissociated

When you can feel your Self directly this way, you will feel a fullness in the core of your body. You will literally feel full of yourself. You will be able to know yourself directly, to know for certain that you exist, here and now, in this physical reality. This will free you from needing validation from others. Acknowledgment and praise will still feel good, but you will no longer feel hollow without it.


In
 the How to Create a Self course, you will learn the energetic skills that you missed and still need to develop. In each module, you will learn a new skill. Each week, we will practice what you've learned so far, answer your questions, and practice a new skill. By the end of the 7-weeks, you will have all the skills you need to develop a strong, stable, felt sense of Self anchored in your body.


During the course, your sense of yourself will shift. You'll discover why certain things have been so hard for you up to now and how to make them easier. As you practice, week to week, you'll become more aware of where your attention is located, moment to moment, and where to place it to feel your Self more vividly. Gradually, you will build the skills you need to feel strong, confident, and capable in the world.


What people are saying about Steven's work . . .

"This Course will change your life."

Danielle Eisenberg

 Relationship Coach

“Steven was an excellent instructor with tremendous insight and willingness to help.  Bravo!"

Fran Friel

 Barbara Brennan Practitioner

"This ... is a must for Leaders in gaining self mastery and the ability to understand and relate to others in a powerful, effective way."

J Kellert, Ph.D 

The Conscious Leadership Center

What people are saying about Steven's work . . .

"This course will change your life."

Danielle Eisenberg

​Relationship Coach

"This ... is a must for Leaders in gaining self mastery and the ability to understand and relate to others in a powerful, effective way."

J Kellert, Ph.D

The Conscious Leadership Center

"A great life tool.  Everyone could benefit from this knowledge."

Ona Cocozza

EFT Practitioner, Esthetician, CMT 

“Steven was an excellent instructor with tremendous insight and willingness to help.  Bravo!  

Fran Friel

Barbara Brennan Practitioner

Greater Connection Through Live Streaming Video

This video connection is easy to use and will greatly increase your learning and transformation.  And all sessions will be recorded so you can watch or re-watch them anytime.

Here's What You'll Learn


During this fun, exciting course, you'll discover:

  • 2 techniques to calm and recenter yourself when upset
  • the 7 skills needed to develop a strong, stable, felt sense of Self
  • the importance of anchoring that sense of Self in the body
  • how to protect yourself from other people's energies
  • how to fill your space with your own energy and remove other energies
  • a daily practice to keep you centered, stable, and strong

"A felt-sense of Core is the Key to Self-Confidence!"




During the Course, you'll explore 7 modules:


Module 1:  Calming and Centering Your Body 

We will begin by helping you come out of the distress and overwhelm that has been conditioned into your body.  You'll learn two techniques to calm your body and bring yourself back to your own inner center.


In module 1 you'll discover:

  • how to calm your body anytime, anywhere
  • how to re-center yourself in 5 seconds
  • how to turn these practices into embodied skills

Module 2:  Establishing Your Core Self

Everyone's first task in life is to settle into the body and attach to it, a process known as Embodiment.  Until you accomplish this, you will never feel safe here in the physical world.  Embodiment is the first step in creating a strong, stable, felt sense of Self.


In module 2 you'll discover:

  • a quick way to come back to Presence
  • the skill called Core
  • the value of Core in knowing who you are and what you want
  • why Core is the key to self-confidence
  • how to integrate this new skill into the skills you've already learned

Module 3:  Connecting with Support

We all need to feel both connected to the Earth and supported by it.  If you have not developed this energetic connection, you feel unsupported and unstable -- like you don't really belong here.  You may be a 'push-over' or a 'doormat'.  People may say you're 'ungrounded'.


In module 3 you'll discover:

  • the skill called Ground
  • the value of Ground in experiencing belonging and support here
  • why Ground is the key to stability
  • how core, ground, and self-care are key to your safety and success
  • how to integrate this new skill into what you've already learned

Module 4:  Protecting Your Space

After creating a center, you must also create an Edge, a Boundary around your personal space.  Your own space, your bubble, must be defined and protected.  Other people's thoughts, feelings, and energies should not be floating in and filling it up.


In module 4 you'll discover:

  • the skill called Edge or Boundary
  • the real reason some people are 'too sensitive' and how to fix it
  • the value of a strong energetic Boundary
  • why Boundary is the Key to Individuation
  • how to integrate this new skill into what you've already learned

Module 5:  Filling Your Space

Along with defining your space, you must Fill your Space with your own energy.  Your space should be yours and yours alone.  You must also bring home stray strands of your attention so that you can be fully present in the here and now.


In module 5 you'll discover:

  • the skills called Filling Your Space and Tying Your Fibers
  • why some people constantly fear invasion and manipulation
  • the value of Filling Your Space
  • the value of Tying Your Fibers
  • how Filling Your Space protects you from invasion
  • how Tying Your Fibers stops you from invading others
  • how to integrate these new skills into what you've already learned

Module 6:  Cleaning Your Space

Finally, you must learn how to clean your space.  You do this by differentiating what is you from what is not you and removing what is not you from your space.  This will give you mental and emotional clarity.  Ideally, your space should always be filled with your own energy and no one else's.  Without doing this, you will constantly feel confused about what is you and what is not.


In module 6 you'll discover:

  • the skill called Me/Not Me
  • why some people think that the thoughts and feelings of others are their own
  • the effects of confusing Me with Not Me
  • the value of doing Me/Not Me
  • how Me/Not Me supports Individuation
  • how to integrate this new skill into the skills you've already learned

Module 7:  Living from Your Core

Now it's time to create the Daily Routine that will support you and sustain you as you develop and strengthen these skills over time.  This Daily Routine is the key to embodying all these skills and becoming strong, confident, and capable.  


In module 7 you'll discover:

  • how to integrate all that you've learned into a simple Daily Routine
  • how to do this Routine even in times of distress
  • the value of a Daily Routine
  • why the only real knowledge is embodied knowledge​​
  • how regular practice is the key to embodying these skills

It’s more than a Course, 

It’s a Community!


You'll be invited to join a private facebook community that's just for students of this work.  There you can ask questions, discuss what you're learning, and share your discoveries.

Receive These Free Bonuses

In addition to Steven’s transformational 7-week course, you’ll also receive these powerful bonus materials. These bonus selections complement the course and introduce you to the 5 Personality Patterns map of personality.

Healing the Mind-Body Split

with Anodea Judith

From Pattern to Presence

an audio discussion of the 5 personality patterns
featuring Steven Kessler and Anodea Judith

Interview with Kelly Blaser

an interview for her DharmaBridge Training

on using the 5 Personality Patterns in coaching

An Intro to The 5 Personality Patterns

an Interview with Wayne Hayden-Moreland

for the VortexHealing and Finders communities

Register by February 2 and Receive These Free Bonuses

In addition to Steven’s transformative 7-week course, you’ll also receive these powerful bonus materials. These bonus selections complement the course — and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.

From Pattern to Presence

an audio discussion of the 5 personality patterns
featuring Steven Kessler and Anodea Judith

Interview with Kelly Blaser

an interview for her DharmaBridge Training on using the 5 Personality Patterns in coaching

Understanding Yourself & Others

an Interview with Tanya Lynn for her Sistership Circles podcast

An Intro to The 5 Personality Patterns

an Interview with Wayne Hayden-Moreland

for the VortexHealing and Finders communities

How You Will Benefit


You'll discover:

  • the real Key to Self-Confidence
  • the skills you need to learn to develop Self-Confidence
  • how to develop Core, Ground, and Edge
  • how to clean your space and fill it with your own life energy
  • how to embody all that you've learned

Previous students report that this work has changed their lives.

Everything in life becomes easier.

Embark on a Life-changing Journey with a Master Therapist

     Steven Kessler, MFT has been studying people his whole life. For over 30 years, he's been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), as well as spending 16 years in the Diamond Heart meditation school.

     Since 1984, Steven has taught hundreds of groups and workshops in the U.S. and internationally, helping men and women heal their wounds and grow into their full adult selves.  For over 15 years, he has been a student of Lynda Caesara, studying Character Structure, the direct perception of energy, and shamanism in the lineage of Grandfather Two Bears and the Southern Seers tradition. 

     His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, lays out a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and relating to them effectively.  Stephen M. Johnson, one of the most famous authors in the field, called it “one of the most useful popular psychology books I have ever seen.”  Readers email him frequently with stories of how reading it has been a life-changing experience. 

What People are Saying About Steven

"I have been doing deep healing work with clients for the last 9 years and I integrate the Enneagram, energy work and other somatic practices. Steven has done brilliant and deep work developing and compiling this information in a way that is approachable and also vast. He has obviously put in his time sitting and supporting and studying real humans. This work is a game changer."

MICAH McLAUGHLIN, Naturopathic Practitioner

"Over the years, I have attempted to learn about myself and heal frustrating patterns within myself through studying things like astrology, the Enneagram, Myers Briggs, etc. While I gained bits and pieces from each of those systems, nothing changed my life like learning about the character patterns . . . .  As a healthcare provider and a parent, I look forward to a world where this information is more widely accessible to and understood by the general public." 

Dr. JEANNIE ACHUFF, ND 

"Imagine understanding five clear survival patterns that run through everyone you know and love, everyone you work with and play with, and of course, yourself. Unlike more complicated systems (like the Enneagram with its 9 points), there are only five patterns to understand here, and when you do understand them, you will find that they do a remarkable job of shedding light on your day-to-day experience of yourself and others. Steven Kessler has done a remarkable job of reframing the insights of geniuses like Wilhelm Reich and Alexander Lowen so they can be understood and applied by everyone."

JORDAN GRUBER, Writer

When you say “YES” to this healing journey, you’ll:

  • Learn how to calm and re-center your body
  • Establish a strong, stable, felt sense of your Core Self
  • Learn how to reference what you feel and what you want, moment to moment
  • Learn how to connect with support and nourishment
  • Learn how to protect yourself from other people's energies
  • Learn how to remove their energies from your space
  • Learn how to fill your space with your own life energy
  • Develop true Self-Confidence
  • Develop self-care and self-love
  • Create a more successful and fulfilling life

Here's What You'll Receive

7 LIVE 90" Sessions of Teaching, Guided Practices, and Q&A with Steven Kessler

Experience a rare opportunity to learn from the internationally known expert and author of the bestselling book The 5 Personality Patterns.  


Each live class session will include teaching on the subject of the week, an experiential practice to help you shift out of pattern and become more present, and Q & A on the teaching and the practice.


Each of the sessions will be RECORDED so you can listen or re-listen any time and know that you'll never miss a thing.

Video Recordings of the 7 Class Sessions

After each class, the video will be available for you to stream in high-quality format. This way, you’ll never have to worry about missing a session, and you can watch or review a session anytime you desire — on your phone or on your computer.

Practices to Embody the Skills You Need

Between sessions, you’ll have support for practicing your new skills to deepen your learning and integrate each week’s lesson.

14 Recordings to Guide You Through the Practices

Each week you will also receive audio or video recordings guiding you through practicing the new energetic skills that were introduced in that session.  You can use the guided practices for as long as you need to get that skill established in your body.

A Custom Course Website

You’ll have access to all the course materials and resources via our private, customized Course Website.

A Private Facebook Group

You'll be invited to join a private community that's just for students of this class.  There you can ask questions, discuss, and share your discoveries.

4 Bonus Audio and Video Recordings

These bonus selections complement the course and introduce you to the 5 Personality Patterns map of personality.

ENROLL NOW FOR

How to Create a Self

A self-paced video Course


You can watch and re-watch the recordings anytime and proceed through them at your own pace.


Choose one of the enrollment options below

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a Self

1 payment of

$295 


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a Self

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$105


NO RISK GUARANTEE

Absolutely NO RISK Guarantee:  These skills and practices have proven so useful to so many others that I guarantee you'll love it, too!  Explore the course for 2 full weeks, and if you find that this material is not useful to you, we'll refund 100% of your tuition.