How to Create a Self
The Key to Self-Confidence and Success
A new video course
taught by Steven Kessler, MFT
Therapist, Teacher, and Author
How to Create a Self
The Key to
Self-Confidence
and Success
A live online course taught by Steven Kessler , MFT
Therapist, Teacher, and Author
Your lack of self-confidence is not your fault.
You just haven't learned the energetic skills you need.
It's time to learn those skills.
Of course, you want a stable, solid, felt sense of Self.
You want to know who you are.
You want to know what you want.
And you want to feel confident and able to get what you want.
But no one develops that self-confidence automatically. It is the result of learning and practicing a particular set of energetic skills --
- skills that most people are not aware of
- skills that most parents can't teach you
- skills that you didn't learn in school
- skills that you don't learn in psychotherapy
Without these skills, you're left wondering, "What's wrong with me? Why are some things so hard for me? Why do I feel so weak inside? Why can't I just pull it together and do what's needed?"
You can learn these skills. They're not difficult. They're not complicated. All it takes is practice -- if you have a guide who can show you the way.
Once you develop these skills, you will have a stable, felt sense of Self anchored in your body. This will give you:
- the actual sensation of your Self – the feel, the flavor, the note …
- clarity about what you feel, what you like, what you want
- a center, a place to operate from
- a place to come back to if you get lost or dissociated
When you can feel your Self directly this way, you will feel a fullness in the core of your body. You will literally feel full of yourself. You will be able to know yourself directly, to know for certain that you exist, here and now, in this physical reality. This will free you from needing validation from others. Acknowledgment and praise will still feel good, but you will no longer feel hollow without it.
In the How to Create a Self course, you will learn the energetic skills that you missed and still need to develop. In each module, you will learn a new skill. Each week, we will practice what you've learned so far, answer your questions, and practice a new skill. By the end of the 7-weeks, you will have all the skills you need to develop a strong, stable, felt sense of Self anchored in your body.
During the course, your sense of yourself will shift. You'll discover why certain things have been so hard for you up to now and how to make them easier. As you practice, week to week, you'll become more aware of where your attention is located, moment to moment, and where to place it to feel your Self more vividly. Gradually, you will build the skills you need to feel strong, confident, and capable in the world.
What people are saying . . .
"This Course will change your life."
Danielle Eisenberg, Relationship Coach
"Steven so beautifully modeled self-acceptance, curiosity, and compassion. He continually guided participants back to their own experience. A rich experience for me. I recommend it."
Joy Caffrey, Energy Healer
"I wish I learned all this sooner. It’s supporting me in living a more authentic and empowered life. I believe these skills are the underpinning of any healthy, nourished adult."
Avi Kotte, Men's Group Facilitator
What people are saying . . .
"This course will change your life."
Danielle Eisenberg
Relationship Coach
"This is my all time favorite course! I'm a hands-on healer and teacher, so I take many courses for self-care and spiritual growth. Of all the classes I've ever participated in, How to Create a Self has been the most helpful. It really did help my self confidence and Presence. How I'm showing up in the world is now completely different."
Jennifer Boose
Consciousness Teacher and Energy Healer
"I wish I learned all this sooner. It’s supporting me in living a more authentic and empowered life. I believe these skills are the underpinning of any healthy, nourished adult."
Avi Kotte
Men's Group Facilitator
“Steven so beautifully modeled self-acceptance, curiosity, and compassion. He continually guided students back to their own experience. A rich experience for me. I recommend it."
Joy Caffrey
Energy Healer
Greater Connection Through Streaming Video
This video connection is easy to use and will greatly increase your learning and transformation. And all sessions are recorded so you can watch or re-watch them anytime.
Here's What You'll Learn
During this fun, exciting course, you'll discover:
- 2 techniques to calm and recenter yourself when upset
- the 7 skills needed to develop a strong, stable, felt sense of Self
- the importance of anchoring that sense of Self in the body
- how to protect yourself from other people's energies
- how to fill your space with your own energy and remove other energies
- a daily practice to keep you centered, stable, and strong
"A felt-sense of Core is the Key to Self-Confidence!"
During the Course, you'll explore 7 modules:
Module 1: Calming and Centering Your Body
We will begin by helping you come out of the distress and overwhelm that has been conditioned into your body. You'll learn two techniques to calm your body and bring yourself back to your own inner center.
In module 1 you'll discover:
- how to calm your body anytime, anywhere
- how to re-center yourself in 5 seconds
- how to turn these practices into embodied skills
Module 2: Establishing Your Core Self
Everyone's first task in life is to settle into the body and attach to it, a process known as Embodiment. Until you accomplish this, you will never feel safe here in the physical world. Embodiment is the first step in creating a strong, stable, felt sense of Self.
In module 2 you'll discover:
- a quick way to come back to Presence
- the skill called Core
- the value of Core in knowing who you are and what you want
- why Core is the key to self-confidence
- how to integrate this new skill into the skills you've already learned
Module 3: Connecting with Support
We all need to feel both connected to the Earth and supported by it. If you have not developed this energetic connection, you feel unsupported and unstable -- like you don't really belong here. You may be a 'push-over' or a 'doormat'. People may say you're 'ungrounded'.
In module 3 you'll discover:
- the skill called Ground
- the value of Ground in experiencing belonging and support here
- why Ground is the key to stability
- how core, ground, and self-care are key to your safety and success
- how to integrate this new skill into what you've already learned
Module 4: Protecting Your Space
After creating a center, you must also create an Edge, a Boundary around your personal space. Your own space, your bubble, must be defined and protected. Other people's thoughts, feelings, and energies should not be floating in and filling it up.
In module 4 you'll discover:
- the skill called Edge or Boundary
- the real reason some people are 'too sensitive' and how to fix it
- the value of a strong energetic Boundary
- why Boundary is the Key to Individuation
- how to integrate this new skill into what you've already learned
Module 5: Filling Your Space
Along with defining your space, you must Fill your Space with your own energy. Your space should be yours and yours alone. You must also bring home stray strands of your attention so that you can be fully present in the here and now.
In module 5 you'll discover:
- the skills called Filling Your Space and Tying Your Fibers
- why some people constantly fear invasion and manipulation
- the value of Filling Your Space
- the value of Tying Your Fibers
- how Filling Your Space protects you from invasion
- how Tying Your Fibers stops you from invading others
- how to integrate these new skills into what you've already learned
Module 6: Cleaning Your Space
Finally, you must learn how to clean your space. You do this by differentiating what is you from what is not you and removing what is not you from your space. This will give you mental and emotional clarity. Ideally, your space should always be filled with your own energy and no one else's. Without doing this, you will constantly feel confused about what is you and what is not.
In module 6 you'll discover:
- the skill called Me/Not Me
- why some people think that the thoughts and feelings of others are their own
- the effects of confusing Me with Not Me
- the value of doing Me/Not Me
- how Me/Not Me supports Individuation
- how to integrate this new skill into the skills you've already learned
Module 7: Living from Your Core
Now it's time to create the Daily Routine that will support you and sustain you as you develop and strengthen these skills over time. This Daily Routine is the key to embodying all these skills and becoming strong, confident, and capable.
In module 7 you'll discover:
- how to integrate all that you've learned into a simple Daily Routine
- how to do this Routine even in times of distress
- the value of a Daily Routine
- why the only real knowledge is embodied knowledge
- how regular practice is the key to embodying these skills
It’s more than a Course,
It’s a Community!
You'll be invited to join a private facebook community that's just for students of this work. There you can ask questions, discuss what you're learning, and share your discoveries.
Receive These Free Bonuses
In addition to Steven’s transformational 7-week course, you’ll also receive these powerful bonus materials. These bonus selections complement the course and introduce you to the 5 Personality Patterns map of personality.
Healing the Mind-Body Split
with Anodea Judith
From Pattern to Presence
an audio discussion of the 5 personality patterns
featuring Steven Kessler and Anodea Judith
Interview with Kelly Blaser
an interview for her DharmaBridge Training
on using the 5 Personality Patterns in coaching
An Intro to The 5 Personality Patterns
an Interview with Wayne Hayden-Moreland
for the VortexHealing and Finders communities
Get These Free Bonuses
In addition to Steven’s transformative 7-week course, you’ll also receive these powerful bonus materials. These bonus selections complement the course — and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.
From Pattern to Presence
an audio discussion of the 5 personality patterns
featuring Steven Kessler and Anodea Judith
Interview with Kelly Blaser
an interview for her DharmaBridge Training on using the 5 Personality Patterns in coaching
Understanding Yourself & Others
an Interview with Tanya Lynn for her Sistership Circles podcast
An Intro to The 5 Personality Patterns
an Interview with Wayne Hayden-Moreland
for the VortexHealing and Finders communities
How You Will Benefit
You'll discover:
- the real Key to Self-Confidence
- the skills you need to learn to develop Self-Confidence
- how to develop Core, Ground, and Edge
- how to clean your space and fill it with your own life energy
- how to embody all that you've learned
Previous students report that this work has changed their lives.
Everything in life becomes easier.
Embark on a Life-changing Journey with a Master Therapist
Steven Kessler, MFT has been studying people his whole life. For over 30 years, he's been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), as well as spending 16 years in the Diamond Heart meditation school.
Since 1984, Steven has taught hundreds of groups and workshops in the U.S. and internationally, helping men and women heal their wounds and grow into their full adult selves. For over 15 years, he has been a student of Lynda Caesara, studying Character Structure, the direct perception of energy, and shamanism in the lineage of Grandfather Two Bears and the Southern Seers tradition.
His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, lays out a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and relating to them effectively. Stephen M. Johnson, one of the most famous authors in the field, called it “one of the most useful popular psychology books I have ever seen.” Readers email him frequently with stories of how reading it has been a life-changing experience.
What People are Saying About This Course
“This was the foundation I've been searching for over the last five years!"
MICHAEL TAYLOR
"This is my all time favorite course! I'm a hands-on healer and teacher, so I take many courses for self-care and spiritual growth. Of all the classes I've ever participated in, How To Create a Self has been the most helpful. It really did help my self confidence and Presence. How I'm showing up in the world is now completely different."
JENNIFER BOOSE , Consciousness Teacher and Energy Healer
"I am SO GLAD I chose to do it. What Steven is teaching is, without a doubt, one of the most important skills any person can learn in their life. It is how to pay attention to what you want to pay attention to.
Doing this course was eye-opening. It showed me why it's easier to sense and feel other people's energy in my body than connect with my own self. This is one of the best things I have done for myself for a very long time. It is that good! Steven is a wonderful teacher and guide with the kind of knowledge that we hope all teachers of the inner world would have. Highly, highly recommended!
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RITU KAUSHAL, author of The Empath's Journey
When you say “YES” to this healing journey, you’ll:
- Learn how to calm and re-center your body
- Establish a strong, stable, felt sense of your Core Self
- Learn how to reference what you feel and what you want, moment to moment
- Learn how to connect with support and nourishment
- Learn how to protect yourself from other people's energies
- Learn how to remove their energies from your space
- Learn how to fill your space with your own life energy
- Develop true Self-Confidence
- Develop self-care and self-love
- Create a more successful and fulfilling life
Here's What You'll Receive
7 90" Sessions of Teaching, Guided Practices, and Q&A with Steven Kessler
Experience a rare opportunity to learn from the internationally known expert and author of the bestselling book The 5 Personality Patterns.
Each video session includes teaching on the subject of the week, an experiential practice to help you shift out of pattern and become more present, and Q & A on the teaching and the practice.
All the sessions are RECORDED so you can listen or re-listen any time.
Practices to Embody the Skills You Need
Between sessions, you’ll be practicing your new skills to deepen your learning and integrate each week’s lesson.
14 Recordings to Guide You Through the Practices
In each module, you will also receive audio or video recordings guiding you through practicing the new energetic skills that were introduced in that module. You will have the guided practices to use for as long as you need to get that skill established in your body.
A Custom Course Website
You’ll have access to all the course materials and resources via our private, customized Course Website.
A Private Facebook Group
You'll be invited to join a private community that's just for students of this class. There you can ask questions, discuss, and share your discoveries.
4 Bonus Audio and Video Recordings
These bonus selections complement the course and introduce you to the 5 Personality Patterns map of personality.
ENROLL NOW for
How to Create a Self
A self-paced video Course
You can watch and re-watch the recordings anytime and proceed through them at your own pace.
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Absolutely NO RISK Guarantee: These skills and practices have proven so useful to so many others that I guarantee you'll love it, too! Explore the course for 2 full weeks, and if you find that this material is not useful to you, we'll refund 100% of your tuition.